tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post8230277963039699903..comments2024-01-17T03:46:08.988-05:00Comments on Reader: Girl Power, Dark and Stormy StyleNinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08506536350115105742noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-5601143031340346782008-03-12T15:03:00.000-04:002008-03-12T15:03:00.000-04:00What, if anything, is this really based upon? See...What, if anything, is this really based upon? Seems like it's just the darkest incarnations of the past & present, stripped of any nuance and real feeling other than "THINGS ARE BAD. Especially in the "modern" version - it just seems to flow from the mind of one who's unhappy in her life in general, but interprets all of her unhappiness as originating in gender roles, rather than in the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-34283884597618401242008-02-25T10:44:00.000-05:002008-02-25T10:44:00.000-05:00Sounds fun; drop me a line! But remember, I don't...Sounds fun; drop me a line! But remember, I don't put out till then END of the first date. Unless you want me to.<BR/><BR/>hehEffortlessly Averagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17489062294151051942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-68866799639188934562008-02-25T04:40:00.000-05:002008-02-25T04:40:00.000-05:00To pick up where I left off:Em, I can't imagine no...To pick up where I left off:<BR/><BR/>Em, I can't imagine not having means of my own, either. But that might just be my personality. I got a job the day I turned sixteen because I wanted independence so badly. It would be difficult for me to give that up now. At the same time, it would be nice not to have to do absolutely everything myself. However, choosing to stay home for the sake of a Ninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08506536350115105742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-70641682359408135252008-02-23T12:58:00.000-05:002008-02-23T12:58:00.000-05:00Hey Nina, that was depressing, but all too true an...Hey Nina, that was depressing, but all too true and I am with you on all counts, I love to do a man's laundry when I am in love with him and I have always felt guilty :-). However, I don't want him to expect me to do his laundry for him, that would really piss me off.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-80368969096663266792008-02-22T18:33:00.000-05:002008-02-22T18:33:00.000-05:00She learns that men are the enemy, that men have b...<I>She learns that men are the enemy, that men have been exploiting her and her sainted female ancestors since the crust of the earth cooled.</I> Fantastic sentence.<BR/><BR/>This whole essay is fucking brilliant. You are making a powerful statement that admittedly isn't Everywoman's experience, but yes, in the confusion of shifting and sharing gender roles, finding our footing, etc., it is most LizLSBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13353222996536740662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-90087268254971722302008-02-22T14:46:00.000-05:002008-02-22T14:46:00.000-05:00wow.yep.You nailed it there.*shakes head at self*t...wow.<BR/><BR/>yep.<BR/><BR/>You nailed it there.<BR/><BR/>*shakes head at self*<BR/><BR/>though I know what the men I work with think of me, and it isn't good.Dagnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06053957505110515102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-8984670283514607502008-02-22T13:25:00.000-05:002008-02-22T13:25:00.000-05:00Wow. Well, I must say that I agree with many of y...Wow. Well, I must say that I agree with many of your points. I see reflections of my mother, my grandmother, and various other females in my life in your words. But, that isn't my life. I took big steps to make sure that would never be my life.<BR/><BR/>I'm very willing to take your challenge. Ten minutes to convince me that Phil is the main source of my problems and the worst thing that imaginary binkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17201098158165803056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-3232323619708573382008-02-21T22:54:00.000-05:002008-02-21T22:54:00.000-05:00Nina...want to set me up with effortlessly average...Nina...<BR/><BR/>want to set me up with effortlessly average?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-58208430181747549142008-02-21T17:50:00.000-05:002008-02-21T17:50:00.000-05:00um... Suddenly I feel like kicking myself in the b...um... Suddenly I feel like kicking <I>myself</I> in the balls. I guess I now know why my wife left.<BR/><BR/>But it's not all roses for some men, ya know. Sometimes a husband tries his level best to be a good man, companion, and partner and his wife still leaves. And it's not easy when you feel the overwhelming heartbreak of watching one you loved for half you life walk away, discarding your Effortlessly Averagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17489062294151051942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-45817396351380116782008-02-21T15:56:00.000-05:002008-02-21T15:56:00.000-05:00*whew* I'd have to agree with Woodrow, and Marlee...*whew* I'd have to agree with Woodrow, and Marlee too. But it's nice that you got this all off your chest, Nina.utenzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15988445461413550750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-62002834255069874692008-02-21T15:48:00.000-05:002008-02-21T15:48:00.000-05:00WT, you obviously aren't buying the right underwea...WT, you obviously aren't buying the right underwear. I am an expert on that, too. <BR/><BR/>Mrs. Who, you are entitled to hate housework, liberated or not. <BR/><BR/>Jen, I wrote it in about 2 hours when I was super annoyed at Mitt for acting like I wasn't pro-woman enough because I refused to get into an argument with him about abortion. Hint: I don't discuss abortion, the death penalty, or Ninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08506536350115105742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-28987721362708944122008-02-21T13:38:00.000-05:002008-02-21T13:38:00.000-05:00I am lucky in that I have a good and trusting rela...I am lucky in that I have a good and trusting relationship with my husband. I had to stay home to raise our child because I would never have made enough money to cover the costs of daycare, so it would have been ridiculous to work. However, I definitely won't stigmatize any woman who chooses to have a career and a child. It's a personal choice, and if a career is something that makes a mother Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05347195133326535822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-87039261747301665052008-02-21T12:47:00.000-05:002008-02-21T12:47:00.000-05:00Um. That was wholy depressing.This might be true f...Um. That was wholy depressing.<BR/><BR/>This might be true for some women, but throughout history other women have found great joy in whatever their role is-- full time worker or stay-at-home Mom. <BR/><BR/>I think I'm a little (overwhelmingly) concerned that people think this is how most women think. What about those that are happy?<BR/><BR/>It doesn't seem realistic to me. I can't believe more Kihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14626379470157786313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-38264586226809218162008-02-21T12:17:00.000-05:002008-02-21T12:17:00.000-05:00I'm kind of depressed after reading this but mostl...I'm kind of depressed after reading this but mostly because I agree with you and find it all to be true. And I'm a feminist too!<BR/><BR/>Le sigh.Sizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182860438430294750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-27280311493993764002008-02-21T11:59:00.000-05:002008-02-21T11:59:00.000-05:00Here's my opinion on why women are undervalued:The...Here's my opinion on why women are undervalued:<BR/><BR/>The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.<BR/><BR/>I once wrote a similarly long post about it. My theory here is that someone long ago decided that in order to gain power and control, women (givers and nurturers of life) needed to be controlled. It began, obviously, with physical control, which changed to psychological control via Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15049341972075281915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-29142904963703460262008-02-21T11:35:00.000-05:002008-02-21T11:35:00.000-05:00Em - I had to cajole my mom (who is happily marrie...Em - I had to cajole my mom (who is happily married) into getting her own bank account after 45 years of marriage. I am amazed that more women don't have their own stash, however small, to use for whatever purpose they choose.<BR/><BR/>From what I've observed, the whole career/stay at home thing is a big tangle of mixed emotions. It's so rare that it's abundantly clear what a woman should do, andPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01702448906893352416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-87591629173234951372008-02-21T10:57:00.000-05:002008-02-21T10:57:00.000-05:00to p: being economically independent from their hu...to p: <BR/>being economically independent from their husbands is really important for women. I learned this only after I became economically dependent on mine. Course, there is still a choice to stay or leave - it just isn't as easy to make.<BR/><BR/>And I'm very disturbed by the trend these days of women leaving good careers to stay at home and then, as you say, stigmatizing women who want to Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02777565909515119985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-3721311815819035672008-02-21T10:37:00.001-05:002008-02-21T10:37:00.001-05:00After reading this I thought, OK, women are twits ...After reading this I thought, OK, women are twits and men are yahoos - I despise them all. It got me all in a twitter because while there is an element of truth to what you write, I feel that the reality between men and women is a lot more nuanced, which makes relationships all the more complicated and layered. <BR/><BR/>Twits and yahoos: I can't say that this has been my experience with women Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01702448906893352416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-37161747388442251752008-02-21T10:37:00.000-05:002008-02-21T10:37:00.000-05:00Somehow I think "having it all" has been translate...Somehow I think "having it all" has been translated into "must do it all". I am sort of between these 2 generations and I have felt so guilty for being a stay at home mom and raising a perfectly wonderful child. Where is the justice in that?thesuzvkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12302602479231750418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-69176197699279962192008-02-21T09:23:00.000-05:002008-02-21T09:23:00.000-05:00I think that the idea of a woman "having it all" m...I think that the idea of a woman "having it all" means options. She doesn't have to do it all, but she can choose the life she wants. I've too many friends who are single, working, taking care of kids, home, pets... Its a hard road.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-83102750750040743412008-02-21T09:17:00.000-05:002008-02-21T09:17:00.000-05:00um, the smell of a man's dirty shirt??um, the smell of a man's dirty shirt??Nick & Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11326590589340535573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-58447016373330239062008-02-21T08:27:00.000-05:002008-02-21T08:27:00.000-05:00This is a good post and very relevant. Thank you f...This is a good post and very relevant. Thank you for writing it.<BR/><BR/>I love pretty underwear too. . .but housework? Eww. There's nothing like getting married and having kids to make a woman hate housework.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02777565909515119985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-53647316087907606232008-02-21T07:51:00.000-05:002008-02-21T07:51:00.000-05:00Nina, you are my hero.Nina, you are my hero.EmmaLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01976963296705941968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-17189546002352734332008-02-21T07:25:00.000-05:002008-02-21T07:25:00.000-05:00You. Are. Amazing. and this is brilliant.You. Are. Amazing. <BR/><BR/>and this is brilliant.country roadshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09783347506375221190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2307850158631350812.post-10945725130763889872008-02-21T00:26:00.000-05:002008-02-21T00:26:00.000-05:00"(I can convince anyone in ten minutes or less tha..."(I can convince anyone in ten minutes or less that their significant other, particularly if he is a man, is actually the main source of the problems and the worst thing that has ever happened to them)"<BR/><BR/>How much money do you have? I ask this because this may be the easiest money I have ever taken from someone. I have tried and failed to convince my gf of this very thing... plenty of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com