My latest email to my step mother:
This exchange has been painful for me, and from your tone, I can tell it has been for you, too. I am moving into someone else's house next week; I am working three jobs, and from what you have told me, all is just fine for you, so I have no reason to worry for your safety or support. It's time for me to take care of myself, as I have been unwell, both physically an emotionally for a long time. If you have anything to communicate of urgency, by all means, communicate. Otherwise, I need to step back for a while. If you were in my position, I am sure you could readily see how hurtful the news that my dad thought nothing of his children but ______, and that only by way of your charity, the sum became _________. Had my need not been so dire, and had I known my dad had only intended us to have so small a sum, I would never have accepted the money. As the total is already spent, all I can do is regret my penury and save to pay you back for the money that was not due me. I want to reiterate: I need a break. Please do two things. First, do not respond to this email. Second, please don't send me any more packages meant to comfort me. They have the opposite effect. I desperately need to re-establish my own life, one that does not include these painful boxes in the mail reminding me of how much my dad used to love me. All that can usefully be said regarding the estate and our family has already been said, and I need to move on with my own life.
Simple yes or no. Should I send it?
And no, the Bitch-krieg email is still drafted and not yet sent. I am waiting for full approval from my father's family before I send it.