Friday, August 8, 2008

And it gets worse

Advised by excellent blogger and good guy Avitable, I have added a donation button. It turns out I can't make rent this month - my brother can afford to give me some, but not enough. I am kind of, how they call it, screwed?

The history: my dad got leukemia, and at the time, I had no debt and $20,000 saved. Two years later, after last minute plane tickets and rental cars, hotel rooms and phone bills, I am not only out of that money, but up to my ears in debt, too. This last week - $1000 in plane tickets for a funeral after which I was run out of the house after, I find out that my dad disinherited all his kids. Let me be clear: my dad's illness bankrupted us, or near it, and we inherited nothing of his - not kidding - many millions. My step mother got it all and she is not speaking to us. Meanwhile, I can't even make rent this month because even though my brother can lend me some money, it won't be enough to cover it. So I am looking at bouncing a rent check and not being able to make the minimum payments on the debt I incurred, all because I was trying to see my dad while he was in and out of ICUs and CCUs and having surgeries and what all else. Check the archive. It's all there.

I am screwed and all pride must now be squelched in the face of pure desperation.

Give me $5 if you can.

I love you either way.

22 comments:

Avitable said...

*hug*

sybil law said...

I will.
I love you!
And I'd like to bitchslap your stepmother.
xoxoxo

Tracy Lynn said...

My dad died at Christmas, and my brother and I did the same thing. I wish I had some money to give you, but hope you will settle for my thoughts and prayers, at least for the moment.

Catherine said...

I want you to get lots and lots of love and money!!! $$$!

Sarah said...

I found you through avitable. If I had known a few days sooner I'd have something left from my paycheck (darn those college books).

How's two weeks from Tuesday?

martin said...

I too came to you via 'The nutsack flasher'. Hope it goes someway to help you out. Remember, when you see two eyes looking at you in the jungle, it's not always a tiger, it could be two one eyed tigers..............

Daisy said...

If this doesn't work you can come to stay with me, though I've never heard of anyone coming to Ohio voluntarily before.

(I hope the $ helps and that your stepmonster gets her comeuppance.)

Karen said...

I am really sorry. I don't know the specifics and I am sure it something that you have thought about, but can you sue your stepmom? I know it is not a quick fix, but the lawyer in me cannot help to go there.

Nina said...

Thanks, Adam. You are a good pal.

Sybil law, Thanks! She will get her bitchslapping the the ass crack of hell. Trust me.

Tracy Lynn, Thanks for the good thoughts and prayers. We are going to make it through this somehow.

Cath, Thanks, but we already talked about this...

Sarah, any time is fine... and thank you.

Martin, Thank you and yes, I have learned a thing or two about... well, tigers.

Dasiy, thanks - it does help. Ohio is cool, actually.. one of my best friends from college still lives there.

Karen, we talked to lawyers, several of them. She got total power of attorney and transfered all of his assets out of his name before he even died. His will makes her both sole beneficiary and executor - but because there is no money in the estate at all, there is no way of trying to get it back. We're fairly well screwed. But yeah, if we thought we could win, we would be lawyering up right now.

Finn said...

I know this probably wasn't easy for you. I can't give right this minute, but I'm here every day and will help when I can.

xoxox

Annie said...

Hugs Nina. Will donate later today when I have more time. Good luck.

Maggie said...

your stepmother's actions continue to drop my jaw to the floor. (of course I also have no idea why your father did what he did with the will...)
Anyway, here is some cash for you. Hang in there, sweets.

Coal Miner's Granddaughter said...

I know it's not much, darlin', but it's a little something. Not enough for rent, but definitely enough for some Haagen-Dazs. :) Plus? I've got an "in-law" suite in my basement here in Georgia. If you can stand the Georgia heat and humidity (and my three toddlers running rampant), you're welcome to get back on your feet down here. Bloggers stick together!

Matt said...

I know it is small or no consolation given the magnitude of your loss, but you have my deepest condolences. Like my sister, I am still trying to put the pieces back together after we lost our father. I wish that I could do more.

CheekySweetie said...

I don't have any cash to spare right now, but having learned a buttload about personal finance to get myself out of debt and poverty, I have knowledge to share if you want it. :)

Sending many blessings your way!

Julie said...

Done.

I wish I had more, but you know how it is here...

Annie said...

Okay, it is done, hope added up it all helps with the rent...Big hug.

Dagny said...

Done and done my friend.

xoxoxo

nicoleantoinette said...

I actually don't know what to say about this. It's insane. Of course I'll head over and click your donate button. If there's anything else you need, don't hesitate to ask.

Chicka said...

Adam's a good nut.

Stepmom needs an attitude adjustment. You want for me to get Vinny?

Rich | Championable said...

Jesus. That's nuts. And not that unusual. Which, in a way, is almost worse. That kind of craziness should be RARE.

Don't know you, but best wishes. Seriously.

Karl said...

Jesus, Nina, this is the first I'm hearing about all of this. Far behind on my reading. So sorry to hear about your dad's passing, and the fucked up financial situation. Thinking of you.